Answers to Couple Communication Questions

How do we improve our Couple Communication?

That’s the most common question I get.

I struggled with this myself early on in my marriage; blaming my wife mostly for the many misunderstandings and disagreements.

What I didn’t know at the time was that it wasn’t our ability to talk with each other or to understand each other that was the problem.

I simply didn’t understand my role in my interactions with her.

That was a big problem.

If you’ve read my book The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle you know that I am not a fan of working on couple communication with the partners. In my experience and opinion, it’s a waste of time.

I believe that communication conflicts are a symptom of a larger issue in the relationship.

What is needed is restoring the feelings of being connected.

This FEELING is what diminishes communication conflicts. This feeling is what allows couples to be able to understand each other clearly. This feeling is what facilitates the resolution of other challenges in the relationship.

I facilitate this by teaching people what to do in their roles of masculine and feminine to restore and sustain the feelings of connection with each other. You might call this chemistry or feelings of being in love.

When this feeling doesn’t exist, neither does the feeling of being deeply cared for.

You already know what happens when you don’t feel deeply cared for.

You cannot talk your way back into restoring feelings of connection.

You can only do that by changing behaviors.

And if you don’t understand your role within masculine and feminine in building connection, you will struggle to improve couple communication, and fail to improve the marriage.

Talk with me.  Reach out to connect with me if you’d like to learn how to improve your marriage.

 

What you do and fail to do is always reflected in the outcome of your marriage.