Are You Still Missing Out?

A ran into an old friend recently who had heard about my book on marriage.

At one point in the conversation he said:


I’ve got my marriage right where I want it….

to the point that I just don’t care anymore.


I responded:

  • You don’t care about love?
  • You don’t care about deeply sharing your life?
  • You don’t care about affection, intimacy and passionate sex?
  • You don’t care about your happiness and longevity?

He said;

Of course I care about all of that stuff, who doesn’t want that?

I’ve just given up on that with her and I have no interest in doing anything about it.


To which I said:

Why not get divorced?


He said:

It will cost me too much money.


I then said:

Ok, so you have decided to fence yourself in to a life of unhappiness

Even though you know there are ways out.

You’re like the bee that gets stuck in your car, and you open all the windows…

But the bee keeps banging its head over and over against the front windshield.

Even though there are multiple possibilities to escape the unhappiness

You’ve already decided to continue to suffer.


He was visibly irritated with me.


A few days later his wife called to tell me that something I had said

had woken him up and that they wanted to hear my ideas on restoring

their marriage.


Life is far too short to be  wasted on unnecessary unhappiness.

I urge you to do something about your marriage so that it enriches

and magnifies your life experience.


Find someone who can help you. Learn what you can do.

What you don’t know is limiting your options and you are missing out.


I want to wake you up to the reality that something better is in fact

possible whether you believe it or not.


You will not create a solution on your own when you have lost perspective.

The windows are open, but you just can’t see it.


Talk with me before all the windows close,

Click and set up a conversation today.


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