Why 2 Million Marriages Crash and Burn Each Year

No one is intentionally creating unhappiness in their marriage. It happens because people don’t have the skills needed to live and love happily ever after.

Your marriage will model many of the behaviors that you saw in your parents’ interactions. That’s just a conditioned reality.

That experience can be a recipe for success, or a recipe for unhappiness.

If what you saw back then wasn’t joyful, affectionate, loving and communicative, your marriage is likely to be challenging.

Why?

Because having a great relationship is a skill. It’s a learned behavior.

No different than flying a plane.

You can learn how to do that really well. But you have to get an expert to either model that for you, or to teach you.

You will not figure out how to fly a plane on your own, and you won’t have a successful marriage if you don’t have the skills.

To pretend you’re a pilot when you’re not will end in disaster.

To imagine that you have the skills for a happy and deeply fulfilling marriage may not be accurate, if that isn’t what exits in your life right now.

You could think of lots or reasons why it isn’t that way, but the truth is whatever it is.

Your success won’t come because you want it to, or because you love your partner.

It will come because you were willing to learn the skills to pilot your marriage successfully.

  • Wanting it to work isn’t enough.
  • Hoping it’s going to get better will end in disappointment.
  • Learning and doing what works is all that matters.

What you and your partner know about sustaining love for a lifetime will always be reflected in your results.

Each year over 2 million couples divorce. It’s not because they’ve fallen out of love. It’s because they didn’t know what to do to keep love alive for a lifetime.

Here are easy ways to learn the skills:

Read The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle

Reach out and talk to me here.

 

 

Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,

Nothing is going to get better. It’s not.  -Dr. Seuss

Why Couples Continue to Struggle

I’ve had some wake-up calls in my life.

You’ve probably had your share too.

One of them was my divorce 25 years ago. That drove me to figure out how to have a great marriage.  Today that’s easy because I know what to do. I want you to have that wisdom because it takes all your relationship stress away.

What knowledge and understanding is missing that keeps you stuck and unhappy?

Because that’s really all it is.

And until you admit that to yourself, nothing is ever going to change.

And it determines your path ahead:

  • Will you be happy or unhappy?
  • Will you have peace or be overwhelmed with stress?

Without realizing it people choose to be unhappy for the rest of their lives because they won’t tell themselves the truth:

They don’t have the knowledge and understanding needed to have a great marriage,

And they are unwilling to do what’s needed to change their situation.

  • Some pretend things are Ok when they are not.
  • Some think talking about the problems will solve them. It won’t.
  • Some think communication is their greatest challenge. It’s not.
  • Some blame their partner and do nothing. That creates consequences.

Do you have the knowledge and understanding needed to turn your situation around?

People can pretend it’s something else.  And to make a decision to continue to struggle and stay stuck will always haunt them.

Never pretend it’s Ok to be unhappy. There is no escape for letting yourself down like that.

Have you read The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle and used the ideas?

Have you spoken with me so that you have the knowledge and understanding to fix your situation?

If not, now might be a good time to do that.

 

 

Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,

nothing is going to get better. It’s not.  –Dr. Seuss