Are you still “In Love” with your spouse?
In my private client work, I often see couples who are completely disconnected from each other.
There is no doubt that they have fallen out of love.
It wasn’t intentional.
Neither of them woke up one day and decided to fall out of love with the other.
It just happens.
And frequently I hear; I love them, but I’m not “In Love” with them anymore.
- Does your partner value you the way you deserve?
- Have they let you down more often than you want to admit?
- Have you dreamed of a certain type of romantic love that never happened?
- Have you ever craved intimacy and connection only to find loneliness?
- Does your marriage lack genuine consideration and attention?
Disappointment is inevitable when expectations are not met.
Disappointment becomes the source of unhappiness.
And disappointment is the destructive power that creates distance in the relationship. Followed by bitterness and resentment.
And Valentine’s Day is filled with disappointment for many people.
And when you have any feelings of bitterness and resentment for your partner, things change:
- Your tone of voice
- Your interactions
- How you feel about them
- Your willingness to give to them
- The level and frequency of intimacy
This creates stress and unhappiness.
Disappointment does not create happy, peaceful and loving feelings.
And the more stress you are under the more likely you are to change towards your partner.
The cycle continues… disappointment leading to stressful feelings.
The stressful feelings can lead to unrelenting unhappiness.
And for over 40,000+ couples in the USA every single week, it leads to divorce.
*If you haven’t spoken to me yet I urge you to do so. Schedule a conversation here.
Even the most disconnected and unhappy marriages can often be turned completely around quickly.
And read The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle so you know what works to improve your marriage.
To procrastinate and think things will get better, only leads to greater disappointment.