Many couples go through the motions of caring for each other.
Do you care for your partner but give less than you used to?
It’s not that you’re neglecting each other, ti’s more of a superficial caring kind of thing.
Plus your both really busy.,. Lots to do.
I see this often in couples I work with.
There’s another version of caring I call pretend caring.
That looks a lot like neglect.
People claim to care but don’t do much to really show it.
They defend it to each other this way:
” I’m here, I showed up didn’t I.”
” I haven’t left”.
“What’s your problem now”
“I do alot more for you than you do for me.”
“Nothing’s ever enough for you.”
I use the idea of Deep Caring to help couples improve their marriages.
Saying you care isn’t proof of deep caring.
You must provide proof and evidence of that caring.
When you deeply care, you’ll DO anything:
- You’ll make your partner the priority
- You’ll do many kind and thoughtful things for them. .
- You’ll go out of your way to demonstrate that you love them.
- You’ll go out of your way to value and appreciate them.
- You’ll be affectionate and present when you’re with them.
- You’ll be thinking mostly of giving and not getting back.
– When Deep Caring is missing, relationships begin to fall apart.
– When Deep Caring is missing, communication will suffer.
– When Deep Caring is missing affection and intimacy are dull and routine.
– When Deep Caring is missing, people feel neglected and unhappy.
Are you demonstrating proof of Deep Caring to your partner?
No marriage ever gets better unless behaviors are changed.
Talk with me if you care deeply enough about your marriage to want to fix it.
Your marriage cannot fix itself.