So people fall in love, get married, maybe have kids, and it’s happily ever after….right?
That’s what I used to believe happened.
Now that I’m married….we’re good…not much more to do here.
I’ve got a career to get to, a family to support, the marriage will take care of itself….right?
This is how couples fall out of love with each other
And this is the recipe for the failure of countless marriages.
I hear it all the time.
“I’m not in love with them anymore.”
Maybe that’s where you are.
If you’ve read my book The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle, I talk about the impact of benign neglect.
- How we don’t mean to make other things more important than our marriage but we do.
- How we don’t mean to put our careers and our kids ahead of each other, but we do.
- We don’t mean to take each other for granted but we do.
- We often believe as I once did, that the marriage will kind of take care of itself.
And my marriage failed.
And the marriages of over 2 million people in the US fail each year.
The biggest mistake of all is thinking that things are good, when they are in fact not.
Maybe you just don’t know any better…yet.
Do not wait for the symptoms to appear;
- Increasing conflicts
- Communication struggles
- Fading Intimacy
- Disappearing Affection
- Questions of Trust
You can save your marriage before it gets deep into the dysfunction phase.
You can even save your marriage when you think it’s over.
But that takes an openness to learn what will turn things around,
and a willing partner who hasn’t decided quite yet that they’re done.
- You’ll know what the real problem is.
- You’ll know what the answer to it is.
- And you’ll know what to do next.
In the famous words of Dr. Seuss;
Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,
nothing is going to get better. It’s not.