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Do THIS to Improve Your Marriage Today

June 20, 2017/in Blog, couple communication, Couple Connection, fix my marriage, Intimacy, marriage, Prevent Divorce, relationships /by Jeff Forte

Many marriage challenges can be resolved much easier than people think. Even the most stubborn relationship issues can change quickly.

You simply need to know exactly what will help improve your situation and be willing to go do it.

One of the reasons I’m so successful helping hundreds of couples save their marriages, is that I like to take complex situations and make them simple.

It’s easy for the partners and even experts to get caught up in all the details of a couple’s conflicts. Your version, their version,…whose is more right?

You can examine and dissect the issues until you are blue in the face…

The problem is doing that will not bring you closer together.

Here’s something simple I personally do every day that will help you:

If you’re read the chapter on Vision in my book, The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle, you understand how important it is to think about how you want to FEEL when you are with your partner.

Before I see my wife during the day or coming back from work at night, I have already thought about how I want to FEEL when I’m with her.

My top of mind emotion is Peace.

Why Peace you might ask?

Because there’s plenty of stress already available, and if I’m peaceful I can easily access other emotional states that will keep us deeply connected.

If I’m peaceful I can be playful,light,happy and fun.
If I’m peaceful and she’s stressed, I can help her to be more peaceful,
and there will be no escalation of disagreements or misunderstandings.
If I’m peaceful I can be affectionate, and fully present for her.
If I’m peaceful I can bring perspective into any situation.

This is a simple little thing that has been game changing in my own marriage.

Try it out for yourself.

Reach out to connect with me if you’d like to learn how to apply my ideas to improve your own marriage.

What we do and fail to do will always be reflected in the outcome of our marriage.

Answers to Couple Communication Questions

June 6, 2017/in Blog, communication, couple communication, Couple Connection, fix my marriage, Intimacy, marriage /by Jeff Forte

How do we improve our Couple Communication?

That’s the most common question I get.

I struggled with this myself early on in my marriage; blaming my wife mostly for the many misunderstandings and disagreements.

What I didn’t know at the time was that it wasn’t our ability to talk with each other or to understand each other that was the problem.

I simply didn’t understand my role in my interactions with her.

That was a big problem.

If you’ve read my book The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle, you know that I am not a fan of working on couple communication with the partners. In my experience and opinion, it’s a waste of time.

I believe that communication conflicts are a symptom of a larger issue in the relationship.

What is needed is restoring the feelings of being connected.

This FEELING is what diminishes communication conflicts. This feeling is what allows couples to be able to understand each other clearly. This feeling is what facilitates the resolution of other challenges in the relationship.

I facilitate this by teaching people what to do in their roles of masculine and feminine to restore and sustain the feelings of connection with each other. You might call this chemistry or feelings of being in love.

When this feeling doesn’t exist, neither does the feeling of being deeply cared for.

You already know what happens when you don’t feel deeply cared for.

You cannot talk your way back into restoring feelings of connection.

You can only do that by changing behaviors.

And if you don’t understand your role within masculine and feminine in building connection, you will struggle to improve couple communication, and fail to improve the marriage.

Talk with me. Reach out to connect with me if you’d like to learn how to improve your marriage.

What you do and fail to do is always reflected in the outcome of your marriage.