Entries by Jeff Forte

Maintaining the Passionless Marriage

Your desire for each other mutes or exaggerates most challenges.  You are the only one who can decide the level of love and intimacy that is fulfilling for you. 1st, Let’s understand that passion for your partner doesn’t have to naturally decline. I know this to be personally true after 19 years with my wife. […]

Why Good People Cheat

You know that both men and women are cheating at about the same rates today.  And you also know that secretive sexting and texting have become incredibly commonplace. Why? Think back to when you first fell in love, and remember the excitement and aliveness that you felt with your partner. They pre-occupied your thoughts, and […]

Cutting Through the BS of Unhappy Marriages

Unhappy marriages are common. It’s the pretending it’s not true that makes it stay that way.​​​​​​​ People do not destroy their marriages on purpose. No one wakes up and says, “Today’s the day I ruin my children’s happiness.” No one says, “I’m going to create lots of arguments and conflicts this week, or “I hope […]

Relationship Transforming Wisdom; Comfort vs. Cold

Want to turn your marriage around, or give it an uplifting boost? Think in terms of providing Comfort vs. Cold. You’ll really want to think about this, or you’ll miss out on one of the most relationship transforming things you can do. How you fail to interact with your partner is the very thing that […]

The Best Marriage Advice You’ll Get

The effort required really isn’t very much. It’s the energy that matches what you want that has to be exact. If I bring you love, if I bring you peace, if I’m grateful for what you’ve done and are doing, Will that help? If I’m empathetic to your concerns and opinions, if I value what […]

Hidden Gems in Conflict Resolution

People can disagree and argue about almost anything, but there are only two real elements in conflicts: 1.  Who is more right? 2.  Who is more important? As you think about this for yourself and your partner, can you think of any other reason that your conflicts exist? It’s always going to be some version of […]

Will Valentine’s Day Ruin Your Relationship

What you may not know is that Valentine’s Day is the beginning of the end for many couples.   Here’s why: Many people evaluate the happiness and success of their marriages and romantic love-lives, based on whether or not their expectations for Valentine’s Day are met.   Valentine’s Day’s unmet expectations often turn into the final straw of […]

3 Reasons Your Marriage Isn’t Already Great

Not everyone is ready to hear the truth but here it is… If your marriage isn’t already great you’re making any of these 3 big mistakes: You don’t care enough.   When I work with couples I look for proof of deep caring. I look for actual evidence that people are willing to do whatever it takes to fix their […]

Where’s Your Proof of Love?

How do I know my wife loves me? Just because she says so…? Is that enough? What evidence in my life points to her loving me? And what keeps me in this relationship with her if she isn’t offering me substantial proof of her love for me? These are real questions. I want you to […]